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If the mushy, gushy commercials and store aisles full of treats and flowers are not enough, I am here to remind you; It is Valentine's Day!  Maybe it is a day you dread.  Maybe it is one of your favorite holidays.  Regardless of how you view the day, it is a day that can be used for all types of love.  One that is overlooked a lot is self love. Self love is required regardless of whether your heart belongs to someone or you are solo.  It allows us connect or even reconnect with ourselves on a very personal note.  Allowing this to happen can open new doors, insight, and promote that gravitational draw of more love into our environment.  Today is a good reminder that you are important and deserve all the love in the world. Here are some great ways to show some self-love on this Hallmark day: Mani-Pedi time Massage Go to the gym Take a nap Take a class whether Yoga or Art do something that interests you Do something off your Bucket List Bu...

We all have wounds.  Some bigger than others.  Often we justify our actions, behaviors, etc. based on these wounds and then wonder why we continue to live the same life.  Stagnant!  Reliving the past hurts and pains day in and day out.  We allow it to control our lives and define it.  It becomes comfortable . . . miserably comfortable! "Often it is the deepest pain that empowers you to grow into your highest self" Let's face it, most of life is justifiable in one way or another.  Does that make it right?  No way. . . We all have a choice.  Unless your boss is holding a gun to your head, your lover with a knife to the throat, or a road way full of mines-WE HAVE A CHOICE!  We can continue to run and shove the mistakes, heartache, and dark parts of ourselves under the bed; or we can face them head on without excuses and justification. “The eyes are useless if the mind is blind.” The biggest problem I see in justificati...

1. Acknowledge it. I think about my feelings of anger as being a child who is acting out. That child could be hurt, sad, frustrated. or lonely, but right now anger is the only way it knows how to express those deeper emotions. If not acknowledged, short term frustration could lead to long term resentment, with physical effects like tight muscles, insomnia, headaches, and bloating. If something recent has happened, allow yourself to be angry for a set amount of time (15 minutes is usually enough). Yell, punch a pillow, call a trusted friend and vent, or listen to some music that may help you access that emotion. 2. Understand it. If you let it, anger can be one of your greatest teachers. That pure emotion can be a connection to our soul’s deepest desires, and understanding the anger can be the key to moving past it and creating meaningful change in your life. Get silent for a few minutes, and have a conversation with that anger. It could be as simple as “What are you here to sho...