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Self sabotage very rarely hurts just self.  Like a bomb, it has a radius.  Usually causing the ones closest to us to be defenseless against a shock wave of guilt, disappointment, hurt, humiliation, etc.  Self Sabotage is a projectile that ultimately will destroy the best things for us.  It takes away the ability to grow and thrive in so many instances.  It also takes away a lot of choices not just from us but from others.  This form of control keeps our wounds open.  It withholds forgiveness, hope, love, affection, etc.  It clouds our judgement and our true selves.   Check yourself  often .  Check your heart.   Check your motives.  Check your attitude. 

I have a tendency to be impatient, knee-jerk, and have the ability to go from 0-60 in 3.2 seconds [and I am not talking about in a car].  Recently a situation raised a lot of questions within myself.  How can I be fine and then be at Def Con 1 within only a few minutes?  The answer is fear! We all have our defense mechanisms when it comes to being afraid.  Some of us run, some of us fight, some of sweat profusely, some of us freeze, and some of us get angry.  We all have our way(s) of coping with the unknown and often we project it when there is NO need to [even more so at the people we care about the most].  Most conversations and/or situations are more like little learning tasks or mirrors to help us see ourselves and cope in a more healthy way.  They are not ALL emergencies and most of the time if we just wait; it will work itself our for the better.  Usually better than we had hoped for. "If the time is not right, the way is not clear,...

"This bright, new day complete with twenty-four hours of opportunities, choices, and attitudes comes with a perfectly matched set of 1,440 minutes.  This unique gift, this one day, cannot be exchanged, replaced, or refunded.  Handle with care.  Make the most of it." Life is based on the choices we make.  It is those choices which can make or break our character in an instant.  Make choices for the better.  Bring an attitude that positively enhances.  Each opportunity should be done with no false motivation or selfish tendencies.